Today, my heart shattered as I heard about a young soul — a child in our own complex — trying to end their life.
That is deeply painful message to read and hear, especially in a space so close to home. When something like this happens, it echoes in the hearts of everyone nearby.
It’s a wake-up call — giving up feels like the only option when no one is listening or guiding. But fighting, healing, and asking for help — that's where courage lies.
This is not just a moment of silence. This is a moment of awakening.
🕯 Message from the Heart:
To Every Parent and Every Teen
To the teenagers reading this:
I know life feels heavy.
I know you’re tired of being misunderstood, of feeling alone in a room full of people.
But giving up is not the answer.
Your pain matters. You matter.
You are not weak for crying. You are not broken.
Please speak. Please ask for help. Please know — you are not alone.
Fighting for your life, for your dreams, for healing — that is true strength.
To the parents:
Please… pause.
Look into your child’s eyes — not with judgment, not with solutions, but with presence.
Children don’t need perfect homes. They need emotionally safe ones.
They don’t need lectures. They need listening ears.
They don’t want pressure. They want connection.
Please, check in. Be curious. Be patient. Be available.
💔 Mental health is not a trend.
It is life and death.
Let’s not wait for another child to scream silently.
Let’s not wait for another goodbye written in pain.
Let’s become a community where it’s safe to be real, raw, vulnerable, and human.
Let’s raise awareness, offer help, open our doors, and say often,
“You are not alone.”
With love,
Roop Lakhani
(Parent. Healer. Human.)
When I was called to solace the teenager after his attempt by his mother,
💛 My Immediate Response was (Emotional First Aid)
I told them
1. Listen without judgment.
Create a safe space. Let them express without rushing to fix or advise. Just be present.
2. Acknowledge their pain.
Say things like:
> "I can sense how much you’re struggling right now, and I’m really glad you shared this with me."
3. Assure them they’re not alone.
> “You don’t have to go through this alone. I’m here with you. And there are people who care and want to help.”
🧠 Understanding the Root (Beyond the Words)
Often suicidal thoughts are not about dying — they’re about wanting to end the pain.
Here are a few common silent screams behind the desire to end one’s life:
Feeling like a burden
Believing they are a failure
Constant pressure to meet expectations
Loneliness, isolation, or feeling invisible
Unresolved trauma or bullying
Emotional exhaustion or shame
🧭 How You Can Support
1. Encourage them to talk to a counselor or therapist.
Professional help is essential. If needed, offer to accompany them.
2. Validate their emotions but remind them of hope.
> "I believe this dark moment doesn’t define your entire life. There is help. There is healing. You’re not broken — you’re hurting."
3. Stay in touch regularly.
Check in with short messages or voice notes. Remind them of their worth.
4. Remind them of small wins, strengths, or reasons to live.
Ask:
> “Was there ever a time you felt peace or joy? What helped then?”
“If there was one reason to stay today, what would it be?”
🌿 Healing Affirmations :
“My presence matters.”
“This pain is not forever.”
“I am not alone in this world.”
“Even when it’s dark, I am worthy of light.”
🧘♀️ Reflective Questions You Might Ask Gently:
(Only if you feel they are ready)
“When did you start feeling this way?”
“What feels the hardest right now?”
“If your heart could speak, what would it ask for?”
📞 Emergency Tip (if threat is serious):
If they are actively planning or attempting suicide, do not leave them alone.
Inform a trusted adult (parent, teacher, counselor) or contact a local mental health helpline immediately.
With lots of love to all parents for a great bonding
Roop Lakhani
www. Rooplakhani.com
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