Women, are you reading this?
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Some reminders in self- reflective way
Do you often say “I’m fine” when you’re actually not?
How many times have you swallowed your anger just to keep peace at home?
When was the last time someone asked you, “But what do YOU want?”
Are you tired of being the one who understands everyone… while nobody tries to understand you?
How often do you put your family’s needs before your own?
Do you feel guilty when you rest, say no, or choose yourself?
Have you become so used to being strong that nobody notices when you are falling apart?
Do you avoid difficult conversations because you already know they won't understand you?
How many things have you forgiven… but never truly healed from?
Are you still carrying words someone said to you years ago?
Do you sometimes feel lonely even when you are surrounded by people?
Have you stopped asking for what you need because asking has disappointed you too many times?
Are you keeping quiet because you don't want to be called “difficult,” “emotional,” or “too sensitive”?
When did keeping everyone happy become more important than keeping yourself happy?
Some Women Don’t Argue. They Just Go Quiet.
Some women don't argue.
They don't shout.
They don't slam doors.
They don't create a scene.
Even when their heart is breaking, they may simply say,
“It’s okay.”
But sometimes…
it isn't okay.
She has just become very good at hiding the not okay.
She has learned that explaining herself doesn't always change anything.
So she stops explaining.
She has learned that when she expresses her hurt, someone may call her emotional.
So she stops expressing.
She has learned that keeping everyone happy keeps the home peaceful.
So she keeps giving.
And slowly, without anyone noticing…
she becomes silent.
But silence doesn't mean there is no pain.
Sometimes silence is accumulated disappointment.
It is every conversation she wanted to have but postponed.
Every time she wanted to say,
“That hurt me.”
But instead said,
“Leave it.”
Every time she wanted to cry,
but someone needed her to be strong.
Every time she wanted to be held,
but she ended up holding everyone else.
And perhaps the most painful part is this:
People around her may start believing that she doesn't feel anything.
Because she doesn't complain.
Because she doesn't fight.
Because she keeps functioning.
But a woman can be functioning…
and still be hurting deeply.
Some women don't leave suddenly.
They leave emotionally first.
They stop sharing their little joys.
They stop telling you about their day.
They stop asking for your opinion.
They stop expecting you to understand.
They stop fighting for the relationship.
And one day you may wonder,
“Why has she changed?”
She didn't change in one day.
She changed through hundreds of small moments when she felt unheard, unseen or unimportant.
And this is where we need to be careful.
A woman's silence should not always be romanticised as patience.
Sacrifice is not always love.
Keeping peace at the cost of your inner peace is not necessarily wisdom.
And being a “good woman” does not mean tolerating everything quietly.
You are allowed to have feelings.
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to disagree.
You are allowed to tell someone,
“What you said hurt me.”
You are allowed to have boundaries without feeling guilty.
And if you are a mother…
Your children are watching more than your words.
They are watching how you respond when you are hurt.
They are learning what love looks like.
They are learning whether love means:
“I must tolerate everything.”
or
“I can love someone and still respect myself.”
Perhaps the greatest lesson we can give our children is not how to keep everyone happy.
It is how to remain loving without abandoning yourself.
So, dear woman, dear mother…
If you have been quiet for a long time, ask yourself gently:
What am I actually feeling?
Not what should I feel.
Not what will keep everyone happy.
Not what will avoid conflict.
But…
What is true for me?
Your feelings don't need permission to exist.
Your voice deserves space.
Your boundaries deserve respect.
And your silence should be a choice—
not the price you pay to be loved.
Because sometimes the healing doesn't begin when someone finally understands your pain.
It begins when you finally stop pretending that you don't have any.
To your peaceful state and higher awareness,
Roop Lakhani
