Why do couple have extra marital relations?
By Roop Lakhani - 23:56:00
Why do extra-marital affairs happen?
There is never only one reason. Affairs usually happen because of a combination of emotional needs, personal patterns, and relationship dynamics.
1. Emotional disconnection (not always visible outside)
Many affairs begin when someone feels:
• unseen or unheard
• emotionally lonely inside the relationship
• misunderstood or emotionally unsafe
When emotional intimacy reduces, people may unconsciously seek validation elsewhere.
But important point: emotional disconnection does NOT automatically justify an affair — it explains the emotional environment where it becomes more likely.
2. Unmet psychological needs
Sometimes one partner:
• needs appreciation, admiration, or emotional reassurance
• seeks novelty or excitement (dopamine seeking)
• wants to feel desired again
If communication is weak, these needs may be fulfilled outside instead of addressed within.
3. Personal inner wounds (not only relationship problems)
Many affairs are connected to personal patterns:
• fear of intimacy
• avoidance of deep emotional work
• validation addiction
• unresolved childhood wounds (seeking attention or approval)
• low self-worth needing external confirmation
So it is not always about the partner — sometimes it is about the individual’s internal emotional structure.
4. Toxic or unhealthy relationship dynamics
Yes — toxic relationships can increase the possibility because:
• emotional safety is missing
• communication becomes defensive or critical
• partners feel trapped or unseen
But again — toxic dynamics explain vulnerability; they do not automatically cause affairs.
5. Opportunity + emotional vulnerability
Sometimes affairs happen when:
• emotional distance already exists
• a new person provides listening or emotional connection
• boundaries are weak
Affairs often begin as emotional connections before becoming physical.
Signs of Toxic Relationships
Toxicity is not just fighting — it is a pattern that slowly drains emotional well-being.
Emotional Signs
• Feeling emotionally exhausted after interactions
• Walking on eggshells
• Fear of expressing true feelings
• Constant criticism or belittling
• Lack of emotional support
Communication Patterns
• Blame instead of understanding
• Gaslighting (making you doubt your reality)
• Silent treatment or emotional withdrawal
• Conversations turning into power struggles
Behavioural Signs
• Control or manipulation
• Lack of accountability
• Disrespect for boundaries
• Inconsistent affection (hot-cold behaviour)
Energetic Signs (what tarot readers often sense)
• One person emotionally over-giving, the other emotionally unavailable
• Repeating conflict cycles without resolution
• Emotional confusion or heaviness in readings
Important insight for your tarot practice
When clients ask about affairs, often
The deeper question is often not about the affair itself. The deeper question is:
Am I emotionally safe, valued, and truly connected in this relationship?
When I do an energy reading through tarot, I do not look only at events or actions. I look at the emotional energy between two people.
Let me tell you, today I had a session that beautifully reflected what authentic tarot energy reading really means — and how trust and energetic alignment create a deep connection between reader and client.
A client approached me with a question about her friend who has been married for 13 years. Initially, she shared very little information. In fact, she was observing and testing how accurate the reading would be. This happens often. Many people come with curiosity, doubt, or a need to verify whether the guidance they receive truly resonates.
As I began the reading, I did not rely on the details she provided. Tarot energy reading is not about collecting external facts; it is about tuning into the energetic patterns reflected through the cards.
The cards revealed emotional stagnation, hesitation, and a lack of courage to speak openly within the marriage. They showed someone feeling emotionally stuck, unable to make a clear decision, and holding back from expressing truth.
There was also a strong indication of emotional involvement outside the marriage — not just as an event, but as an energetic escape from unresolved emotional dynamics.
As the session unfolded, the client began sharing more information.
She realized that the insights coming through were aligned with reality. She then asked deeper questions — whether separation or divorce was likely, and how she could guide her friend. What was important here was not predicting an outcome but understanding the energetic state of the person involved.
I explained that tarot does not force destiny or create decisions. Tarot reveals the current energetic pathway. The cards indicated that the person lacked the courage to speak up and take decisive action, suggesting that the outcome depended on personal growth and emotional clarity rather than external timing.
This is where authenticity becomes essential.
An authentic tarot reading is not about telling clients what they want to hear. It is about reflecting truth with compassion and responsibility. When a reader stays grounded in authenticity, clients feel seen and understood. Trust begins to grow naturally because the guidance resonates on a deeper emotional level.
Faith also plays a powerful role. Faith is not blind belief in the reader; it is openness to insight. When clients allow themselves to listen without resistance, the reading becomes a space of awareness and transformation rather than simple prediction.
Tarot energy reading is essentially the interpretation of emotional and energetic patterns. The cards act as symbolic mirrors that reveal subconscious dynamics, emotional blocks, and soul lessons. They help us see what is hidden beneath the surface — fears, desires, avoidance patterns, and areas where growth is required.
Tarot coaching takes this process a step further. Instead of only describing what is happening, tarot coaching guides clients toward conscious choices. It helps them understand how their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors influence their reality.
Through coaching, clients learn how to respond differently, how to communicate with awareness, and how to create healthier relationship dynamics.
In sessions like this, the goal is not to judge relationships or label people as right or wrong. The goal is clarity. When clarity arises, clients feel empowered to support themselves or others with wisdom instead of confusion.
Authenticity builds connection. Energy reading creates understanding. Tarot coaching provides direction.
When these three come together, the reading becomes more than information — it becomes a meaningful experience of self-awareness and growth.
Tarot helps me understand what is happening beneath the surface — the unspoken feelings, the emotional patterns, and the energetic dynamics that are shaping the relationship.
Through tarot, I guide you to explore your emotional needs versus expectations. Sometimes we expect our partner to understand without expressing clearly what we need.
The cards often reveal where needs are not being voiced, where emotional nourishment is missing, or where one person is giving more energy than they are receiving.
Communication patterns also become visible in tarot. Certain cards show whether conversations are open and honest or filled with avoidance, defensiveness, or silence.
Tarot helps us see whether communication is creating connection or creating distance.
Another important layer is personal emotional wounds. Many relationship challenges are connected to inner child patterns, past hurts, or fear of rejection.
Tarot does not judge — it reflects where healing is needed within us so that we can respond consciously instead of reacting from pain.
I also observe the overall relationship dynamics.
Is there balance or imbalance?
Is one person emotionally available while the other withdraws?
Is there mutual growth or emotional stagnation?
Tarot shows the energetic flow between two individuals and helps us understand why certain patterns keep repeating.
An energy reading is not about blame or predicting betrayal. It is about awareness. When we understand the emotional and energetic truth of a relationship, we gain the power to make conscious choices — to communicate differently, to heal old wounds, and to create healthier connections.
Tarot becomes a mirror of the soul. It helps you see where you feel safe, where you feel unseen, and where your heart is asking for deeper alignment.
The 10 Strongest Early Warning Signs Most People Ignore in Marriage
These signs usually appear quietly in the beginning and are often dismissed as “normal adjustment,” but over time they create emotional imbalance.
Communication Avoidance
Important topics are postponed, ignored, or brushed aside. Problems remain unresolved instead of being worked through.
Emotional Invalidation
When feelings are minimized with phrases like “you are overreacting” or “you are too sensitive.” This slowly erodes emotional safety.
Lack of Accountability
Apologies without change. The same patterns repeat but responsibility is never truly taken.
One-Sided Emotional Effort
One partner constantly initiates conversations, repairs conflicts, or tries to maintain harmony while the other withdraws.
Growing Emotional Distance
Less sharing, less emotional curiosity about each other’s inner world.
Subtle Disrespect
Sarcasm, dismissive tone, or jokes that undermine confidence. These small behaviors gradually damage trust.
Avoidance of Vulnerability
Refusal to discuss deeper emotions or fears. Emotional intimacy remains superficial.
Control Disguised as Concern
Checking excessively, monitoring decisions, or limiting independence under the label of “care.”
Repeated Boundary Crossing
Ignoring personal limits or pushing beyond comfort zones even after being told.
Loss of Self
Feeling like you must shrink, adjust excessively, or silence parts of yourself to maintain peace.
These are early energetic signals that something needs attention before resentment or disconnection grows.
Hidden Red Flags That Look Like Love but Are Actually Control
Many controlling patterns appear loving on the surface, which makes them harder to recognize.
Overprotectiveness
Presented as “I care about you,” but actually reduces independence or freedom.
Constant Checking
Frequent calls or messages framed as love, but driven by insecurity or control.
Decision-Making Without You
“I know what is best for us” can slowly remove your voice from the relationship.
Jealousy Presented as Passion
Extreme jealousy is often mistaken for deep love, but it reflects insecurity and possessiveness.
Isolation from Others
Discouraging friendships or family connections while claiming to want “more together time.”
Love Bombing Followed by Withdrawal
Intense affection initially, followed by emotional distance when expectations are not met.
Guilt-Based Affection
Making you feel responsible for their happiness or emotional stability.
Helping Without Respecting Autonomy
Doing things “for you” but without considering your choices or consent.
Conditional Kindness
Affection or approval given only when you behave in certain ways.
Sacrifice Narratives
Statements like “I do everything for you” used to create emotional pressure or obligation.
From a tarot energy perspective, these dynamics often appear as imbalance between giving and receiving, emotional suppression, or power struggles hidden beneath surface harmony.
Tarot is not only about predicting outcomes. It is about understanding emotional truth.
The cards reveal:
Unspoken needs
Communication patterns
Inner emotional wounds
The energetic balance between two people
When clarity comes, decisions become easier. When awareness increases, relationships either transform or show their true direction.
Tarot becomes a mirror — not of fate, but of consciousness.
To your better awareness and energy reading for healthy relationship,
Roop Lakhani
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