Do Deewane Sheher Mein
I saw this beautiful movie, Starring, Do Deewane Seher Mein, starring Mrunal Thakur and Siddhant Chaturvedi. It is not just a romantic drama — it is a layered psychological study of how childhood criticism shapes adult identity, self-worth, and partner choices.
This is a film every therapist, counsellor, relationship coach, shadow-work practitioner, and inner child healer should watch.
Because beneath the romance lies deep emotional conditioning.
Roshni – The Girl Who Hid Behind Glasses
Roshni avoids marriage.
Not because she doesn’t want love —
but because she doesn’t feel lovable.
As a teenager, she was publicly compared to her sister by her own mother during a family gathering.
Her sister resembled the mother. Whereas Roshni was told, she did not resemble mother.
That single moment carved a silent wound.
She grew up believing something about her face — her nose — was flawed. She begins hiding behind oversized, zero-power spectacles.
Not for vision. For protection.
The glasses become armor.
Ironically, she works as a content creator for a beauty and fashion brand that promotes fair-skinned perfection. Every day she edits beauty standards she does not feel she meets.
This is classic internalised shame.
A child criticised for appearance becomes an adult obsessed with hiding.
Roshni is not avoiding marriage.
She is avoiding exposure.
Because intimacy requires being seen.
And she never felt safely seen.
Shashank – The Boy Who Lost His Voice
Shashank, played by Siddhant Chaturvedi, carries a pronunciation issue from childhood. A small speech challenge turned into lifelong embarrassment.
Despite being intelligent and capable in his corporate job, he becomes anxious when handed a mic.
His body remembers the teasing.
His nervous system remembers humiliation.
So even as an accomplished adult, the inner child trembles.
This is unresolved inferiority complex.
Competence does not erase childhood shame.
The Sister – Pleasing to Survive
Roshni’s sister appears confident but is slimming down constantly to satisfy her husband’s expectations.
Her worth is tied to appearance.
She eventually realises she has been shrinking herself — literally and emotionally — to maintain approval.
All three characters are products of upbringing that bred insecurity:
• Public comparison
• Conditional validation
• Performance-based love
• Social pressure around marriage
In Indian society, being single is treated as a crisis.
Marriage becomes a solution to identity.
But what happens when two insecure individuals enter marriage without healing?
They don’t unite.
They project.
Attachment Patterns and Inner Child Activation
This film brilliantly portrays:
Attachment patterns
Roshni leans avoidant — she withdraws before she can be rejected.
Shashank leans anxious — he fears exposure and judgment.
Inner child activation
A comment about appearance triggers Roshni’s teenage wound.
Public speaking triggers Shashank’s childhood humiliation.
Emotional avoidance
They deflect vulnerability through humour, silence, or overthinking.
Fear of intimacy
Both want connection but are terrified of being truly seen.
Modern relationship confusion
Are we in love? Or are we just seeking validation?
Complement or Mirror?
When Roshni and Shashank meet, they don’t just see each other.
They see their wounds.
Roshni sees someone equally insecure.
Shashank sees someone equally guarded.
Sometimes we choose partners not because they complete us —
but because they validate our insecurities.
And healing begins when we recognise:
The partner is not the enemy.
The wound is.
Why Healers Must Watch This Film
This movie is not entertainment alone.
It is live case material.
It demonstrates:
• Body image trauma
• Shame conditioning
• Social comparison damage
• Performance anxiety roots
• Fear of rejection
• Projection in relationships
• How upbringing silently dictates partner selection
For shadow-work practitioners, this is integration in motion.
For inner child healers, this is textbook activation.
For counsellors, this is attachment theory unfolding organically.
For therapists, this is how early criticism becomes adult avoidance.
Final Reflection
Roshni hides behind glasses.
Shashank hides behind silence.
Both are hiding from the same thing:
The fear of not being enough.
Do Deewane Seher Mein gently reminds us —
Before entering love, we must meet ourselves.
Because when two unhealed children fall in love,
they don’t create romance.
They recreate history.
And when awareness enters the relationship,
love becomes healing.
This film is worth watching not just with the heart —
but with psychological insight.
As a healer and coach, this film reminds us of one powerful truth — most people are not struggling because they are broken, but because they learned to see themselves through the eyes of criticism rather than compassion.
Roshni hides behind glasses,
Shashank hides behind hesitation, and many of us hide behind roles, achievements, or silence. Yet beneath every insecurity lives a child who once felt unseen, compared, or not enough.
Healing begins the moment we stop trying to fix ourselves to fit into someone else’s definition of beauty, success, or worthiness.
Relationships do not heal us by making us perfect; they invite us to meet the parts of ourselves we have avoided.
From a healer’s lens, the real transformation is not changing your face, your voice, or your personality — it is changing the story you carry about yourself.
You are not too much.
You are not less than.
You were never required to shrink to be loved.
Be yourself.
Remove the masks gently, with compassion.
Stand in your truth even if your voice trembles.
Because the deepest healing happens when you realise:
You are enough — not when someone chooses you, but when you finally choose yourself.
If this story touched something inside you, pause and ask yourself —
Where am I still hiding?
What part of me still believes I am not enough?
Notice what resonated.
Was it Roshni’s shame?
Shashank’s fear?
The sister’s need to please?
Your reaction is your revelation.
And if you are someone healing your own wounds, let this be your reminder:
You do not have to change your face to be loved.
You do not have to perfect your voice to be heard.
You do not have to shrink to be chosen.
If this resonates, share your reflection:
What part of the movie felt like your story?
And more importantly —
What mask are you ready to remove?
Because healing begins the moment you say:
This is me. And I am enough.
Share your thoughts if you have already seen the movie..would be happy to read them.
And yes, if anywhere you feel, you are not enough, and you want a gentle guidance and mentorship, you may feel free to book the session.
Share your thoughts if you have already watched the movie — I would truly love to hear what resonated with you, what emotions it stirred, and which character reflected a part of your own journey.
And if at any point you recognise the feeling of “I am not enough,” know that you do not have to walk that path alone. Sometimes a gentle space of awareness, guidance, and compassionate mentorship can help you reconnect with your authentic self.
If you feel called, you are welcome to book a session and explore your healing journey with support, understanding, and care.
Roop Lakhani
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